Would you like one-o, or dos-o?

I’m not really one for “routines” but I come up with re-usable bits all the time. A reusable bit is a funny joke or comment you can recycle in many different situations. Mostly they are good for quick buying temperature spikes. I’ve noticed people are more compliant after a buying temperature or investment spike.

So if you want something from a girl – a response in text, follow you to the bar, etc drop a buying temperature or investment spike on her and she’ll likely be far more compliant than without.

For bonus points pay attention to your own interactions with people and learn to keep and recycle the best ones in your back pocket to pull out. After a while you accumulate so many of these you have something for just about every occasion.

This bit works with someone of ethnicity who speaks a foreign language fluently or as their native language (ie, Russian, etc). This one was with a Latina.. modify for other languages appropriately.

HB: Do you have any spare CD’s?
MM: Would you like one-o, or dos-o?
HB: Dos-o.
MM: Hey your Spanish is improving.
HB: (laughs)
MM: You’ve been practicing haven’t you?
HB: (laughs) Yes I’ve been practicing!

Transition from there.

--MM

Getting the blowjob you always dreamed about

Most guys have trouble with getting their girl to do what they want in the sack… let’s face it, having sex the way you like it can be a sticky situation!

Through my trials and error I have discovered the 3 key elements to getting amazing blowjobs from girls I date.

• Avoid being negative or overly critical.
• Emphasize the positive
• Be assertive about what you like

1 and 2 are fairly similar but I have to break them down into seperate examples.

I once joked and told an amazing girl I was dating that her blowjob was “the worst I’d ever had”. It was a true statement, we had an honest type of relationship, but at the same time it was overly critical and it hurt her. Do you think I ever got another blowjob from her again? Uh… no. Being critical and making cruel statements is a great way to break intimate relations. Don’t be the dope I was and make the same mistake.

Instead, you want to emphasize the positive. There is definitely a technique to a superb blowjob. And frankly, most guys are so excited to stick their dick in a woman’s mouth that they will tolerate any crappy blowjob just to have a woman perform on them. This reinforces bad blowjob behavior and as such, most of the blowjobs I’ve received from women have been really, really bad. The kind of bad where you have to think about some other super hot girl just to get excited enough to finish in her mouth.

But since I began emphasizing the positive I’ve had much better results from my sexual partners. If a girl is doing the “twist the hand” move while blowing me – like good porno girls do – I’ll tell her something which lets her know I’m enjoying the experience. I might say “Baby it really turns me on when you….” And then I’ll fill in what she is SPECIFICALLY doing. It’s important to be specific or she won’t know what she’s doing is having a crazy good effect on you.

Lastly, you want to be assertive in bed about what you like. Again, ignoring the critical, if she’s doing something wrong avoid telling her she’s doing it wrong. Instead, just tell her what you like. Tell her “I really like it when you go up and down with your mouth and your hand”. Even if she’s never done that before. It lets her know what you like. And since the whole point of oral sex is to please the receiver, she’ll do it for you.

If there are any ladies reading, they can follow these 3 basic steps to get the kind of sex or oral they like from their dude as well.

Lastly I have some advice for the ladies: Stop treating your dude like an appliance.

You expect your guy to know your body inside and out and you expect him to make you cum. What is he, a vibrator? Perform on demand? Make ME cum?

You are an active partner in the sexual experience too you know!

Take responsibility for your orgasm. If you’re being pounded doggy style, do you know how many women I’ve met that won’t bother to reach “back there” and play with their own clit? When doing so would create an amazing experience for them.

You are just as responsible for your orgasm as the guy is. Trust me, the dude knows how to get himself off. You should know as well.

If you don’t even know what you like, well, don’t expect the guy to help much other than just being the “stunt cock”.

Enjoy kiddies,
Milkman

Online dating and photo quality

A lot of guys ask me how I do so well at online game.

I've been in it for a while and let's just say I have my methods. ;) However, there's one thing which recently 'upped my game'.

Getting professionally done photos.

I'd always gotten decent attention from women. But being an older guy, whose 'searchable credentials' didn't put me in the prime areas women might be looking for. So I always did the opening myself, and had great responsiveness.

But as soon as I got professionally done photos, I started getting a LOT of attention. The # of winks and emails I got would increase 2-4x. Women were more responsive.

Great professionally done photos can make a huge difference when it comes to online game.

I read an article from a dating site this morning which made a lot of sense to me. Now they try to go into all this statistical mumbo-jumbo about how this or that makes a better picture. I'd recommend you read it and just take it for what it is: re-affirmation that better looking or professional photos hook girls much better.

Here you go, and leave the shirtless bathroom mirror camera phone shots off your profile.

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/dont-be-ugly-by-accident/comment-page-5/#comment-15623

Liquor Store pickup LR, pt. 2

Txt'd the girl from the liquor store a couple times and then called her on the phone.

Set up a classic Karaoke hangout. She headed to my place. Made her a drink. Got cozy on the couch.

Headed to Karaoke. She couldn't be out late; bad logistics. Sent her home. The next day she tells me my lips have the power to make her lose track of time. I txt her my lips have superpowers.

Two days later it's my birthday. I have the day off. Meeting my sis for breakfast. Bevmo girl texts me happy birthday. She says she owes a certain birthday boy a kiss. It's on.

I seed logistics and she comes over later. She's got a busy day of laundry and errands later on she "has to do". Life of a hired gun…...

Chillin out on the couch having too logical of a conversation. At least she does most the talking. I lean over and kiss her for a bit to hush her up. She gets hot and mounts me.

I pick her up still straddling me and carry to the bedroom.

I pop her nip and she warns me it gets her too hot and she loses control. Oh no. She says she's been too good for too long. I tell her sometimes it's good to be bad.

I'm laying on the bed in my boxers sporting a pup tent while she's stripping. Her body is fine. I tell her check the tent out, we're going camping.

She asks me if I have a condom. I grab my favorite brand and she mounts me.

Glory times ensue.

She’s been over several times. This girl is foxy. The last time I saw her I'd told her to come over "looking sexy for me". She came over wearing a black g-string, corset, tiny skirt, very high heels.

Liquor Store pickup, pt. 1

Two weeks ago, I headed down to a costume shop to pick up a pirate costume for a cruise party tonight. I bounced to the liquor store next door. Looking around for the good stuff when I see this super hot tall girl. Long straight hair, 5'9, tiny waist, super nice ass, big titties. Perfect for splitting in half or throwing over your shoulders.

Face is a little off, but her body is so damn tight. You had to have seen this girl. I'd nut her up anyway. She's in a tight but professional suit with a little skirt, carrying a clipboard. I don't know what it is but a chick done up all in a business outfit, yet retaining her femininity does something for me. I walk past her, grab my bottle from the wall and as I'm walkin back in her direction, away from the wall over my shoulder I go spontaneous/observation:

Me: "Everything in order?"
Hottie: "Yeah, just tryin to get this all arranged."
Me: "Well good..", I say, moving around the beverage display to her side.. "you know why right? We have important partying to do tonight!"
(she laughs)
Hottie: "Now what are you buying? It looks interesting"
Hottie: Me: "Melon liquor and sugar free sweet and sour. It's for a Tokyo ice tea. Ever had one?"
Hottie: "No but I like to make godiva chocolate martinis…"

We get to talking, turns out it was her birthday last week and she went a cruise like I'm doing. Then even weirder she dressed up as a pirate on a TV show last week.

I already have a LTR coming with me tonight but tell her to come anyway. Figure I'll just hook up with her sometime in the future, or turn her into a pivot. She doesn't have a lot of friends because she's always busy workin. Starts qualifying how life is hard etc. I give her approval. She seems nice, maybe even a little innocent. Definitely a freak in the sack tho. She seems like she might be the type to love pleasing her man.

Asked if she had a facebook. Cool, give me your # I'll text you cause I gotta try that martini you make. Makes no sense but the switcheroo works 99% of the time, every time.

How being an authority figure relates to attracting attractive women

You know, you hear a lot of stuff in the seduction community which gets repeated and then after time, becomes dogma. Though what you hear is not always correct or fully explained… know what I mean?

Leading a woman is one of these concepts. When you lead a woman, she shows compliance by following. Compliance can be as simple as, “Here, hold this a sec” and handing her your drink, “Cruise by my place at 7 and we’ll go on an adventure”, or “wear something sexy tonight… if you’re not wearing panties I’ll never tell”.

Keep building compliance until you have enough for sex. If you don't have compliance, you certainly will not be having sex.

Sex to ejaculate is not necessarily my motivator. I’ve found sex is a necessary act to bond a woman with you. Once you have sex, a woman will backwards rationalize everything which lead up to the moment. She will then be yours. If you really like a woman, sex is one of the best ways to keep her around.

Though, having sex doesn’t necessarily mean the interaction was totally solid.. You can still lose her.

What you want is a woman who not only wants sex from you, but she’s genuinely hooked on and chases you. That’s solid.

You can tell when they’re hooked. They text, they call. They touch you. They will look to you for direction. They will try to please you in many different ways.

These concepts can seem foreign to those who practice only random One Night Stand game. Unable to hold onto women themselves, they make long term mistakes for the sake of short term gains. That mindset is poor game.

Personally, I only go for chicks I really dig and have a connection with. Yeah, I actually feel a connection with every woman I decide to have sex with. They're all special to me, I'm just not necessarily the settling down type right now. I also figure if I’m going to put in the time to seduce her, I want to keep her around for a 1,000 night stand.

To “lead” is not enough and simplistic in its description. Instead of leading her, you want to show HER that she can be lead by you. You want to become an AUTHORITY FIGURE in her life.

As I think back to every woman I’ve ever had sex with, the most solid ones are those which looked to me as their leader, authority figure, and decision maker.

As an authority figure to women, they’d ask me questions like “what should I wear?”, or “what would make tonight perfect for you?” right before I tell her to go down on me... and she does it and is very, very happy in doing so - as she is pleasing me.

These are all independent, strong willed women who in their normal life probably put men in their place on a daily basis. Yet once you establish yourself as an authority figure in her life, it’s as if she loses all ability to make decisions. She looks towards you as the decision maker with these cute little doe eyes.

Being an authority figure doesn’t mean everything is your way or the highway. Nor does it mean being a dictator. I know people like that and they blow themselves out more often that way. Or, they hook only very weak-willed women who were susceptible to being lead in the first place.

So how do you become an authority figure? Many ways my friend..

Being decisive is one of the many ways. Guys who are bad with women will ask her “what do you want for dinner tonight?” and she will always reply “I don’t know, what do you want”?

Women HATE this. It annoys them. Annoying women is not conducive to glory times inside her glistening mound.

Instead, I like to tell her something like “I’m in the mood for sushi or Greek.. How about you?”

Women prefer it when guys interact with them in this way. You’re leading by giving her suggestions, but this is the important part - you’re also including her in the decision making process.

Chances are she’ll just go with one of your suggestions, but if there’s something she really wants she’ll let you know. This is a good model to follow any time there are decisions to be made, be it the day and time to hang out, where to hang out, what to do, etc.

Another component is showing a woman you can “handle her”. Women will act “feisty” and try to hold the frame. A frame is a way of looking at things. For example, “the guy always pays” is a frame. Once established, frames are usually harder to control. It’s important to set frames early and get her to adopt yours.

If you can show a woman your frames and they adopt them, you’re showing yourself as an authority figure to her.

I love to throw several frames out there. One I like in particular is that I “respect those who don’t care what other people think and go for what they want”. Women are more interested in protecting themselves from being judged socially than they are in doing something they enjoy (sex). If you can convey these values to them it allows them to relax that you will never judge them, and they are being someone you like by “going for what they want” – sex, with you.

To combat the "dating" frame, I'll tell a woman I'll pay for first round. The implication is that if she sticks around, she's paying for the next round. Don't worry about offending generations of women everywhere with the notion they should - GASP - pay on a date. It's the 21st century. Women are independent and can handle themselves. Also, being someone's doormat and personal portable purse is not conducive to building a good relationship. If a woman enjoys your company she will be very happy to buy a round of drinks. If she's not, she's either cheap, or is not really interested in you. Use things like this to weed out the bad women early. It'll save you trouble in the long run.

At the same time, getting a girl to qualify herself if your frames are different can be important as well. Qualifying is when she gives a reason why she doesn’t conform to your standards. Maybe you convey that you value freedom and the outdoors so you go running several times a week. She might not run at all but will qualify by telling you that she’s really busy but instead, she walks her dog.

Teasing a woman is a great way to get her to view you as an authority. When you bust on her, never bust on anything like family, friends, religion – things she can’t change or had no part in. If you were to make fun of her race, her snaggle tooth, or something else - STOP - you're doing it wrong.

Instead, bust on her for silly things she’s said or done. Maybe she accidentally wore two different colors of socks. Or maybe, she spilled her drink onto your shoe or her blouse. “Wow, I think I’m gonna have to revoke your fashionista license with those socks”. She'll qualify herself, "I was sooo tired this morning.... normally I'm very coordinated!" "Yeah, I can tell... ha ha"...

Take it a step further. I was dating this model, she was 5’7, Puerto Rican, very thin, attractive woman with killer curves. Incredible body. Did I say incredible? Any guy would die to get her in the sack. She told me she had to stay a certain weight or less, so I’d bust on her for her food choices. I’d tell her she was being a good girl and could have 3 instead of her normal 2 slices of lettuce today. Just have fun with it.

When it comes to it, leading a woman and showing her that you are an authority figure are great tools to have in your box to solidly hook women.

That’s all for now, unless you’re planning on payin’ for this shit…
--Milkman

Triggers

Let’s pull a random subject out of my arse, yay! Milkman gigantic post time. Gather around, kiddies…

When I first got into game I noticed that women all seemingly acted the same, so I thought it was a joke that “women were unique”. I’ve never been a misogynist, but I have to admit… this sounds pretty misogynistic! I might as well start my own talk show and change my last name to Leykis…

Now days I sport a more refined view. Remember, experience tempers ones’ viewpoint.

I’ve realized women all show the same REACTIONS. If she gets interested in you, she might twirl her hair, punch you when you bust on her, ask you questions, ignore the pleas of her friends to “go dance”, ask you where the afterparty is (code for 'let's fuck'), etc.

These reactions are almost universal when a woman is interested in you…

But what makes women unique is that what TRIGGERS these reactions are different for every single woman.

When you’re talking to a girl, imagine yourself as a suave undercover agent: It’s your job to find out what TRIGGERS her attraction.

Is it your subcommunications? Your physique? Your image? The things you’re talking about? Some quick-witted observation, or ability to bust on her? Your confidence? Your balls-out desire? Your ability to win over her friends? Some nerdy gambit you read on the Internet? The fact you’re wearing a fuzzy vest? The fact she’s seen multiple women make passes at you?

Anything and everything can cause an attraction trigger in a woman – be ready to try it all and BE it all. This is why anything and everything you do to improve yourself (inside and out) will help you – you never know where the source of her attraction will come from.

Now, her personal state affects her triggers as well.

Wait.. what? YES.

On one night you might meet a girl and she might completely not be interested in you… but when you see her a month later, her state (and hence her triggers) have changed, and she’s not only receptive to you but she wants your mothafuckin’ monkey balls!

When it comes to it, a girl’s words can lie but her actions are her “tells”. In poker, a player might bluff but each has “tells” which reveal what is really going on. Does she really have a boyfriend or does she want to see if you have the balls to follow through?

Get really fucking good at looking for these “tells”. Let them guide you.

If a girl banters with you on your opener, that’s GREAT.

An opener may not necessarily cause attraction, but it can communicate valuable things: You’re fun, social, and outgoing. It does something else……

It gives you more time to find out what her attraction triggers are.

As I said, every woman is different in what “hooks” or “triggers” her. Be prepared to try different things when you talk to her.

--Milkman