Mixed Sets and What to do if your girlfriend gets hit on

Two sides of the coin...

So you’re out and talking to a woman who seems to be into you, but suddenly an aggro guy tells you “I’m her boyfriend”. Yet the girl keeps talking… What do you do? There are many reasons why a woman might entertain you in the presence of her boyfriend and they don’t all necessarily mean she’s into you…

• She wants to make him Jealous
• She’s not “trained”
• She’s drunk and unaware of her actions
• She’s looking to trade up
• She’s bored

Etc.

Keep in mind "I'm her boyfriend" is guy-code for "I know what you're doing, get lost". In those situations I tend to disqualify myself by saying I have a girlfriend, and then running a little rapport with the both of them. Presto, insta wings and future hangout partners. Or you could keep going, and possibly get in a retarded fight when there are tons of other girls nearby who aren't taken.

I wouldn’t be afraid to approach mixed sets, but at the same time there’s a fine line between finding out logistics of “how everyone knows each other”, and intentionally trying to poach a dude’s girl in front of him. If you pursue the latter course of action, anything which happens is on your head.

My girl is being hit on - Help!

I go out with my girls often. Some are trained better than others, but here’s some of the things I’ve done when my girl is being hit on.

• AMOG
• Perform human sacrifice (Introduce someone to the annoying guy and move girl)
• Not acknowledge guy and move the girl
• Interrupt strongly to take over the conversation and tell the guy “Hey nice meeting you, we have to go now”
• Interrupt strongly and speak only to the girl “Hey, it’s your turn..” or “I just saw the most AMAZING thing I have to show you! Let’s go”, then move her.
• If the guy isn’t that great, ditch her so she gets bored of him and comes looking for you.
• Start talking to girls who are attracted to me in front of my girl.
• Have a wing come in and talk to the guy, move the girl.

Etc.

I’ve only needed to AMOG once in 2 years, so there are plenty of other things you can do without resorting to something which may possibly get ugly.

-MM

Personal Development: Nutrition

Ok guys, part of getting better with women overall means pushing to better yourself and developing new goals. Some of those goals for me have been: better nutrition, better fitness, and continuing to learn to cook healthy meals.

With that in mind here are some things I’ve done lately which are leading to success in some of these areas for me. Since beginning I feel like I have more energy, and my body is expelling less waste. In other words, it's using more of what I give it because it's better for me:

• I’m eating 4-5 smaller meals every day to keep my metabolism going.
• I am a calorie NAZI; I watch everything I eat and read labels religiously.
• I’ve cut down on cheeses, bad fats, sugars, and processed foods such as white bread, cookies, or other shitty snack foods. Instead I eat things like Bananas or 80 calorie yogurt.
• I cut down on alcohol to weekends only. Alcohol is a double whammy because it both slows your metabolism plus even a shot (1oz) of Grey Goose has 69 calories.
• I eat whole wheat or brown rice products, high in fiber, protein, low in fats/sugars.
• I cook my own meals so I have more control over what goes in my body.
• If by some retarded act I’m a lazy ass and don’t make my lunch, I search online for healthier, lower calorie fast food alternatives.
• I’m reading Eat THIS, not THAT!
• Cut down on "late night snacks" (unfortunately I still get the munchies after partying on Fridays and Saturdays)

Fast Food Possibilities.
Face it, fast food sucks, but some of it is somehow less bad for you than others. If you fuck up and forget to make lunch you can find fast food alternatives which are semi acceptable.Here’s some of the fast food things I've found in my area…

Carl’s Jr. Grilled BBQ Chicken Sandwich – 360 calories!
Carl’s Jr. Side salad with the low fat basalmic dressing – (125 calories)
Subway chicken breast sandwich on whole wheat, with tons of veggies, mustard, pepper, but NO MAYO OR CHEESE – 600 calories for a footlong (that’s two 300 calorie meals for 5 bucks).
Greek Salad with chicken breast from a local restaurant – few hundred calories.
Togo’s turkey and avocado – 700 calories, but it’s 2 meals.
Jack in the Box chicken fajita pita – 300 calories.

As you can see your biggest enemies are the breads, sauces, and cheeses. Watch what you eat in these areas and you can really cut down.

Here are a couple super easy meals you can make yourself at home which are super low calorie, and nutritious.

Chicken Pitas (inspired by Jack in the Crack)

• Sarah Lee whole wheat pitas, 80 cal for 2 (or something better if you find it)
• Favorite cheese shreddings
• Defrosted/Thawed chicken breast
• Red Onion strips
• Greens: Lettuce, cilantro, tomato
• Spices: Black pepper, garlic salt
• Pace medium salsa (I freaking LOVE salsa, its so low cal and full of flavor)

Directions:
Heat a small pan with virgin olive oil on medium. While it’s warming, chop the raw chicken up and toss it plus the red onion strips into the pan. Season appropriately with spices. While it’s cooking, wash and chop up your lettuce, tomato, and cilantro. Cilantro is strong so don’t use much. When everything is chopped and the chicken is done, throw it and the greens plus salsa into a whole wheat pita and top with salsa. Go EASY on the cheese, or don’t use it at all. Fucking delicious, easy, and only a couple hundred calories.

Veggie n Chicken stir fry (“Damn Mongoreans, you break down my Shitty wall!” – South Park)

• Defrosted/Thawed chicken breast
• Olive oil (virgin)
• Spices: Black pepper, Garlic Salt
• Chinese Chili Sauce (HOT)
• Soy or your favorite teriyaki (I like honey teriyaki, but look at the labels and caloric intake)
• Veggies (your choice): Water chestnut, bean sprouts, carrot dollars, asparagus, cabbage, broccoli, yellow squash, red onion, anything you might like.
  

Directions:
Heat the pan at medium with just enough oil inside to coat the bottom lightly. While it’s heating, cut your veggies to bite size. The chicken will take longer to cook so chop up the raw chicken and throw it into the pan and start cooking. Throw some spices on the chicken and keep stirring. When the chicken is ¾ done, throw in the veggies. Now spice everything up and coat with one or two teaspoons of the Chinese chili sauce, depending how spicy you like it. Throw in your favorite Soy or Teriyaki sauce. Now stir everything around well so the spices and sauce are evenly mixed! Cook until it’s done. Yummtastic, and again it’s protein and veggies so it’s good for ya!

Whole Wheat Spaghetti and Chicken Breast

• Frozen chicken breast (ralphs has an inexpensive variety which comes in a re sealable freezer bag)
• Spices: Garlic Salt, pepper
• Whole Wheat or Brown Rice pasta
• Prego or your favorite spaghetti sauce (watch calories) I got a hruge jug from Costco
• Parmesean cheese
  

Directions:
Bake the chicken breast in the oven per directions. Around half way through, pepper and lightly garlic salt the top, and then flip it over and do same to bottom. While it finishes cooking, start your spaghetti. The meat and spaghetti should be done around the same time. Drain, mix in your favorite sauce, and top with chopped baked chicken breast for protein. Lightly sprinkle parmesean cheese. Enjoy.

-MM.

Back to Basics; LMR and being the Prize

So I was hot and heavy with this new cutie, and then something happened which hasn't in a very long time! Although her beautiful boobies were deliciously molesting my very helpless lips, she wouldn't let me remove her pants or finger her. In retrospect it was totally my fault. To be honest my escalations are so smooth I never get ASD or LMR any more so I left out some very simple things!

The next morning it had gotten worse!

She'd sent me a long e-mail, telling me things like she wanted to “wait until she knew it was special”, she “didn’t like dirty talk”, and “what do I think?” As I read that email, only one word came to mind: TRAP.

I could neither ignore or answer that email candidly; both would cause problems. Instead, I replied something to the effect of “Bummer! I knew I should have thrown more midgets into the fantasy! About the rest, all my best relationships have started off most passionately. The rest, well, maybe I’ll tell you about some time”. And then I CHANGED THE SUBJECT!

What I told her was actually true; every time a chick has tried to put the breaks on us getting to know each other, it's totally wrecked things. It's always best when things just flow. She's a little sexually inexperienced so I was determined not to let her fears and social programming wreck things. As the guy you gotta step up and lead.

The next time she was over I set a script flipping trap for her. I baited by getting her worked up and horny. Her breathing became heavy as she was grinding into me, then I sprung it by giving her LMR. “Babe…” “Yes?” “No sex tonight... but I will make you feel good”. “Ok”. Later, we were both tired and fell asleep.

In the morning, the barriers were completely gone. Her jammies came off and as I was going down on her, she said “what about you?” I interpreted this as "time to get a condom". Then, as the song goes... I took her to funky town.

After we were through, we were having a discussion about how vigorous sex can burn up to 400 calories an hour. She knows I’m trying to get in better shape and mentioned we’ll have to have more fun to burn more calories. Now she’s the one chasing me because I'm the prize.

My sinsei said something which applies here. He reminded me once that these traditions were handed down through hundreds of generations and it's up to me to remember and pass them on. I apply this to my skills with women in that sometimes our sticking points are not because we lack the knowledge to go forward, but because we have forgotten where we have been.

-MM.

Relationship Management 1: Chase Mode

Score! You James Bond motherfucker, you just made out with or even got laid from a total hottie! But how into you is she? How long might this last? What can you expect next? She kissed you so she’s gotta dig you, right? There’s a magnitude of difference in the amount a girl likes you between one you have to lead and “take” a kiss from, and one who craves you and longs to be part of your reality. Do you want to be the guy who has to chase the girl and work her up to sex every time, or the guy who the girl goes after without any prompting from you because you’re the prize and you inspire desire in her?

Both guys are getting laid… but why should you care? You shot your wad, isn’t that what counts? I’d answer that depends on where you set your sights, and what your goals are. If you’re okay with flying coach, cool have fun. But if you want a better experience where the girl treats you like a king, you may want to listen up. Think about it… if you only knew what to look for to tell how into you a woman was, you’d have a general idea how “healthy’ the relationship was. A spider sense! And when something changes for the worse, you can change and put things back in the right motion. Being the guy – the LEADER - means being informed, and knowing what to do. This is part of relationship management…

We all know the signs of a girl that isn’t that into you. Maybe she doesn’t respond to your calls or texts that well (or at all). Perhaps you have to grab for her hand, or be the one to go for the hug every time you’re out. You might even have to always kiss her, or do tons of work to “get her in the mood”. She’s accepting your lead (for now!) but you get this strange feeling she doesn’t seem that into you.

So how do you tell when a girl is truly into you? When I meet a girl the first time I might look for IOIs to provide feedback and tell me how I’m doing. With this knowledge I escalate properly. But what about after you’ve already met her, and the decision has been made she wants to get to know you? After the initial meet, I look for Chase Mode Indicators (CMIs). CMIs take into account such factors as attraction, comfort, familiarity, happiness, state, neediness, being the prize, and validation. Avoid mistaking CMIs for neediness; they’re not the same. One girl wants you, the other girl needs you. Generally multiple types of CMIs will be displayed during the duration for which she’s most strongly into you. Some are her way of saying “I miss you, and I’m thinking of you”. Other, in person ones are her unconscious way of stating she wants more of you. Here’s a few I’ve experienced:

• When side by side, you accidentally brush and she grabs your hand.
• She cleans or does the dishes at your place without being prompted.
• She’s the first to text you on any given day because she wants to see how you’re doing.
• She sends you more texts than you send her, or calls you more than you call her.
• You lean back in bed or on a couch and she curls up, resting her legs or head on you.
• When you’re away, she goes through less seen portions of your Myspace profile such as your blog, or older photos because she wants to find out more about you.
• She leaves you comments on your Myspace/Facebook.
• She brings you small tokens of her affection, such as a towel because you’re a surfer, an apron because you love to grill or enchiladas because you love Mexican food.
• She does things for you, like cooking your favorite meal.
• She seeks your attention, in a good way.
• She builds an altar with 666 blood red candles, pictures, and locks of your hair (just kidding – this is the girl who is needy).

When it comes to CMIs, watch for the actions and avoid listening to the words. I know girls who are feisty and give me hell, but their subconscious actions betray they are deeply into me. Keep an eye open so you can determine which girls are _truly_ into you, and those which merely bought into your frame and are letting you lead. In the future I’ll post some tips on putting a woman into chase mode.

-Milkman

Cool stuff I've read lately

Some cool things I’ve read lately…

Robbo put up a funny flirtatious email he sent a girl. I liked it.
http://robbokramer.blogspot.com/2009/01/how-to-flirt-via-email.html

Kelly put up a great spot about breaking girls out of autopilot and being playful.
http://www.windowshoppingforwomen.com/blog.php

David Wygant posted a great article about what to do when you meet a great woman, who happens to have a boyfriend. Note the way this is handled is totally different from when one of the girls you’re already seeing suddenly finds a provider boyfriend because you were too unobtainable (more on that later)…
http://pickuppodcast.com/blogs/pickuppodcast/archive/2009/01/07/she-has-a-boyfriend-who-cares.aspx

How to: Turning that number into a date!

How many times have you met a cool girl, tried to follow up with her, and she was non responsive? What the hell happened? Or maybe, she was totally into you after you called her, but was a super flake and you couldn’t get her to go on a date. What’s a guy to do? Work on your reopening skillset… that’s how. A solid reopening skillset can give you the opportunity to turn even the softest closes into dates, lays, LTRs, and more.

In the movie Swingers, Trent gave Mike the advice to wait 3 days or even 6 to call a girl so he didn’t scare her off. The waiting “x” days rule is ok, but it’s really for those who don’t understand things the way the community does. We know with the right vibe, you can contact a girl right away.

FIRST CONTACT.

So you have this hottie’s number burning a hole in your cell phone… holy shit, suddenly it's the wrong kind of weenie roast. So when and how do you reopen her? With a few exceptions, I prefer to send a text in the early afternoon the day after, around 1pm. Avoid sending it too early when she’s still hung over, needs to get her coffee, or is being lazy curled up in her PJs. Even if she enjoys your text and means to respond, she may ADD out and forget to get back to you.

Regarding the actual message, I’ve found the right combination involves C/F, a challenge/qualification, or callback humor along with something which is designed to elicit a response. Remember, your goal here is to GRAB ATTENTION, ELICIT a reply, and build RESPONSE COMPLIANCE (and compliance in general). Some simple re-openers might look like this…

• Hi NAME, do u speak text? –Milkman
• Hi NAME, are u textually active? ;) -Milkman

But even better… get creative! CHALLENGE her! Be cocky (but not a DICK)

• NICKNAME, you left the party so soon… what happened, big day at the library today? :p By the way, do u speak text? –Milkman
• NICKNAME! Wow I don’t think I’ve ever seen a skinny girl bogart so many of my nachos before. Am I gonna have to send Sally Struthers to save you? :p BTW, r u textually active? –Milkman

Breaking these down in how they work, you first grab her attention by using her name (or a nickname you gave her). Next, you pump attraction/buying temperature with a little bit of banter, c/f, a challenge, or callback humor. Lastly you end it with a response elicitor- something designed to evoke a reply. I normally prefer to make STATEMENTS over questions like “do you speak text”, but since we put a little attraction/BT into the kitty we can make a small withdrawal here. Lastly, unless I saved my name in her phone I’ll sign my first text with my name. Either that or you can play stupid little “Who is this” frame games, and waste your time in doing so. :p

BEGIN ESCALATION.

Mission accomplished… she responded. Now, branch out and banter while showing as much value and mystery as you can to bait and interest her. So you’re running the tightest text game ever with this cutie; she’s being feisty, playful, throwing you IOIs, and shooting replies off to you quickly. Feels great huh? Awesome, well your job ain’t done yet, bucko. While all this is going on it’s telling me she’s at the height of her response compliance, so I’ll take this opportunity to CALL HER because she’s most liable to answer!

THE FIRST PHONE CALL.

I’ll have first conversations of anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes, keeping in mind my job as the dude is not to entertain her on the phone all day but to secure a meet up with her. I might do a pre-FTL (False Time Constraint) and drop that I’m meeting a friend to go surfing soon, or some other excuse. “Hey! What are you up to ….. My friend is on the way over, we’re going surfing soon…. But real quick.. blah blah. Girls like barriers; they keep them in line and give them something to work for. Anyway, during our conversation, I’ll banter, display values, get them to laugh, and have a fun time. Building comfort and trust in this step is vital to just how much of a hoop you can give them when it comes to meet up time. Every step builds upon the prior one.

MAKING THE DATE.

When it comes time to make the actual plans, here’s how it often goes down for me:

Milkman: You know, you’re feisty and kind of fun. We should get together some time.
Girl: Kind of fun? KIND OF? I’m a LOT of fun! Yeah, we should get together some time.. so you can see how fun I am! (Or, if she’s super into you she’ll suggest logistics right here)
Milkman: How about Tuesday, or do you know if Thursday is better for you?
Girl: I have extreme crocheting class on Tuesdays, so let’s do Thursday. What are we doing? (Note: When girls ask “what are we doing”, they really mean: “What should I wear?”)
Milkman: It’s a surprise so I can’t tell, but I can promise its right up your alley! Just dress in something cutesy-comfy and be over at my place at 7:30. Do you have a pen?
Girl: I’ll get one. What’s the address?
Milkman: (Tell her address and directions). Show up with an appetite, I’ll be making a gourmet meal before we go out. By the way, do you like the crusts on or off your Peanut Butter and Jelly sandwiches?
Girl: Ha ha, you better make me more than peanut butter and jelly, but I’m a “crust on” kind of girl. Blah blah..
Milkman: Oh shit! My buddy is here so I have to scoot… but it was nice talking to you and we’ll see each other Thursday!”
Girl: I can’t wait.
Milkman: I know. ;)

Ok, that last one was a little over the top but I had to do it. Anyway, notice the progression here; I’m letting logistics come out slowly. It’s important not to give too much info too fast or she may say no to the meet up based solely on the logistics. Girls do have lives also, when they’re not pining away for me that is. ;) I concentrate on the biggest things first, like first that the two of you should go out. Then I choose a day, followed by a time. As each thing is confirmed I move on. You should be VERY SPECIFIC when it comes to the when, and where of the date. You can be looser in other areas like what you’re doing, it’ll give you flexibility and you can change things around as the situation evolves. By the way, I never call it a date. It puts too much pressure on the situation. Let her be the one to call it the D-Word. You should call it a meet, a hang out, etc.

AFTER THE CALL.

It’s fine to go a couple days and contact her via text to keep things fresh, or to respond to her if she opens you. The day of, she may send you a “we still on for tonight?” or you may send her a “Ready to have some fun tonight?” (Which you will append after a suitably appropriate attraction/BT spike, of course!)

Enjoy… let’s hear some of your experiences!

-Milkman

~ Milk Curdles, First Edition ~

Milk Curdles are random nuggets of wisdom from Milkman regarding women. They may be meet or lay oriented, how to handle a girlfriend or LTR, or anything else... in no particular order.

Want to increase your compliance/response rate when texting? Pump attraction/BT as a deposit whenever you make a withdrawl. Check out the differences between these two texts: “What’s up? How are you doing? Hey what’s your facebook?” which will both bore and annoy the shit out of someone and “You rode your bike into a cactus? And I thought I was the blondest brunette I know! But before I forget, shoot me your facebook email address..” which will grab their attention, build a little attraction, and have a higher response rate. More on text game another time...

The 3 second rule is useful for more than just to get over AA. There’s an unspoken social rule that when you walk into a space you can immediately open those who give you eye contact with no pretenses. This applies to rooms, elevators, near the bar, on a crosswalk. Open those who notice you. If you wait, it’ll be more awkward. Once you open, be prepared to transition fast.

Using logistics, you can overcome all sorts of obstacles you may encounter with women. Think ahead to roadblocks, like a chess game, and outmaneuver them before they happen. I call this "logistics game", and haven't heard of anyone else doing it.

• How to get her back to your place after the date? Start the date there so it's natural to return.
• What if I don't think she'll come over on the first date? Utilize the geography and roads to your advantage; if on a map A is her, B is you, and C is the destination, choose a destination venue which places you between the venue and where she lives. That way it's only natural she drives over to your place. Visually it would look like this: A>B>C. (A) she travels to your place (B), and you drive the two of you to venue (C).
• How do I get her to stay in her bathing suit when we get out of the pool/hot tub if I don't think she's ready to get naked? Have robes ready for the 2 of you and put it on her when you come back inside. She'll be less inclined to change back into cockblocking street clothes. Physically escalate fast.... she'll be looking to change soon.
  
  A girl I was seeing/sleeping with now has "a boyfriend". How do I handle it? When girls get a boyfriend, one of two things happen. They either tell you, or they completely up and vanish and won't answer any of your attempts to contact them. They know you're a threat to their new dude. They know they'll go weak when they see you, so they want to cut it off with you to prevent that. Instead of getting pissed that you can't have sex or see her any more, think about it. It's actually a compliment in disguise. Depending on circumstances if she tells me about him, I tell her a boyfriend destroyer along the lines of "Cool, he sounds like a great guy! I hope it works out for you and he returns the investment you're making in him. Anyway, I gotta hop in the water.. the waves are up!". And then I do my own vanishing act. Regardless if she tells you or just vanishes, you should cut her off with no communication. No "Hey all.." texts, no Myspace comments, no calls, no e-vites, no phone calls, no random e-mails with a topic you think she'd dig, no tweets, NOTHING. She's got to miss you, wonder what you're up to, see the comments of other girls flirting with you on your Facebook, etc. Whenever she realizes the dude she hooked up with isn't as good with you, she'll start contacting you. But the game's not over. Let her contact you at least twice before you reply. Make her chase you. And when you do reply, act like nothing happened. This isn't the only way to handle the situation, but it's a damn effective one. More on Girl/LTR management later.

-Another Special Delivery from Milkman.

How to: The Dinner Date

As the first of many how to articles, here’s one on my favorite type of date: the Dinner date. Dinner dates can be super effective when done right, and are usually a 1st or 2nd date activity for me. I probably end up having sex with around 90% of girls who go on dates with me, and it happens on date 1, 2, or 3. Only once did it take 4 dates and she was a model. Go figure she was the tough cookie. Let’s talk about some of what a dinner date brings to the table…

• Tasking a girl to bring something like wine increases her investment.
• Being a guy that can whip up great food or drinks displays great DHVs.
• Getting her involved in the making of dinner, like having her chop veggies also increases her investment and helps foster an “our world” experience.
• With her at your place you may have souvenirs or accomplishments which are easy to talk about from a comfort/attraction standpoint.
• It’s an easy way to get her to your place with plausible deniability, and you’ll have the home court advantage.
• She’ll be more comfortable on future visits.

I’ll have her show up around 7 with some wine. We bounce to the grocery store to grab a few things (the clerks give me these looks because I’m always bringing hot women in). When we return I make us drinks and then we sit down in front of my wide screen which is hooked up to the computer, and I start showing her funny videos, playing music, and telling her stories about my Myspace pictures. By now she’s totally loosened up and relaxed, and there’s anywhere from light to heavy kino. Often they’ll just put their legs up on mine. When they’re this comfortable and touchy sometimes the first makeout and lay happens right then.

If it doesn’t, I’ll do a takeaway by getting up to cook dinner right as she’s super comfortable with me. She’ll follow me into the kitchen (you always want to set a frame so she’s chasing you and vying for your attention). I involve her by telling her to chop things up, watch the timer, pour me a drink, etc. Afterwards we sit down, eat, hang out a little more and again we have kino, makeout, or sex opportunity.

Then it’s time to bounce to the venue. I like high energy venus to keep state and attraction high. My favorite is Karaoke because of the participation factor, energy, social proof, more DHVs, and just plain fun. When we return, there’s almost always make out, groping, grinding, and then sex.

Activities for dates at home: Check out Myspace/Facebook, picture albums, tell stories about things she notices in your place, play music and dance, teach her Karate moves, do Kokology puzzles, and more. Telling stories about pictures or things in your place is awesome because it works from a DHV, attraction, and comfort standpoint simultaneously. Generally anything which keeps the mood fun, interesting, flirty, conveys good things about you, or involves touching is a winner. I’m not a fan of movies; they’re dead time you could have spent furthering the interaction. If you use a movie to isolate to the bedroom… cool. Normally I just lead them there by the hand when it’s time, with no pretenses.

Let’s hear some of your favorite date strategies in the comments below.

-Milkman.

F1RST!

Welcome and thanks for visiting my blog on meeting, attracting, dating, and seducing quality women. I'm doing this blog for 2 reasons. First, to help other guys out. And second, to help me archive my thoughts since I'm pretty much the blondest brunette you'll meet.




What I am not: I'm not a pick-up artist.
What I am: I'm more of a social guy who just likes to have fun.

If I had to describe my style, it'd be "inside-out".

What I mean by inside-out is that you get better with women by working on what you can't see: Yourself. Work on outer game as well, but inner is the emphasis. Lots of guys want to know "lines" to tell women to get them in bed. Sometimes they even work. Personally, I prefer to attract women based on me - my personality, rather than bullshit. That doesn't mean I don't employ "routines"; in it's vaguest sense, if you tell a harrowing story over and over you're doing a routine. It's just a routine about you. Coincidentally, those are also the best because they really let her connect with you.

Let's start with my "Jumpstart to Attracting Women", a few of the best tips I can give someone who's just beginning their journey. I'll be updating and modifying my posts, so revisit and refresh often. You'll often find revitalized enhancements.

-Milkman

Milkman's Top 5 Tips to Getting Better With Women:

1. Let's get Physical!
I won't tell you that fat boring slobs can't get good with women, they absolutely can. Hell I'm out of shape myself. They start out with a mark against them though, visually from across the room you automatically won't appeal as much to her so you really need to work overtime in the other departments. To increase your chances, start living a more active lifestyle and get in shape. Pick up new, fun physical hobbies like Surfing, Karate, Snowboarding, Biking, Rock Climbing, or join the gym.

2. Revitalize your image!
Get a cool haircut, pick up some sharp clothes, and fine tune your personal hygene. When it comes to a haircut, find a stylist you like and ask them for something edgy which can still fit in with your workplace. Visit retail sales outlets like Nordstrom Rack or go to secondhand stores and pick up clothing gems at a steal. Take a female friend or gay friend with you if needed. Lastly, please take care of hygene issues. Brush your teeth, wash your hair, trim unsightly body hair, trim nails, etc. Regarding appearance, the bigger the slob of a guy, the more well groomed and dressed he should be. Pretty boys like Brad Pitt can get away with the scruffy look and still be hot to girls. Slovenly dudes going for the scruffy look just appear as douchebags who don't care about their appearance. Subcomms are everything; if you don't care about yourself, a girl will know you don't care about much more in life.

3. Learn to be positive, fun, confident, have a sense of humor, live an interesting life, and be able to talk about it.
Fun, positive, confident people with a great sense of humor are really attractive to women. If you live an interesting life AND can talk about it, women will be all over you. If you only sat on the couch, ate frozzen pizzas, and played video games all day I can see why you'd need to rely on routines. A positive person living an awesome life wouldn't have that trouble, so work on this. Pick up new hobbies, be outgoing, and challenge yourself personally. Be passionate about whatever it is that you love, and be able to talk about why you're passionate. More on that later..

4. Basic social skills.
Having basic social skills is unfortunately often overlooked. You can run the tightest game possible but if you lack basic social skills it's going to cause problems time and time again. Social skills are different from social conventions. Like the Matrix, some may be bent, and others broken.

5. Daily Newbie Mission
My version of the Newbie Mission is not finite, and does not end at 1,000 approaches. Daily, you should approach and open at least 10 people. If you want to challenge yourself without putting your work/school/responsibilities at risk, you may approach more daily. Here's the important part: At least half of those you open would be attractive women you'd consider dating. The rest can be anyone: A business man waiting for an elevator, a woman walking her dog, the bouncer at the club, etc. Getting used to opening any time, any place leaves you "on" all the time and you won't need "warm up sets". It also subcommunicates you're a social guy who can make friends with anyone, which is important not to appear like a wolf on the prowl.

-Milkman.