To DHV or not... that is the question

A little self horn tooting is acceptable or even attractive. By extension, per Hypnotica's COC definitions:

· Passive: Considers others only
· Aggressive: Considers only oneself and not others
· Assertive: Considers both self and others prior to taking action

Someone who is passive would never take credit for their actions and is essentially a doormat. They’re the “nice guy” who fails to build attraction and interest.

Aggressive people tell a few too many “DHV” stories, they brag, and show off repeatedly. At the surface level they can appear very attractive or interesting, but when you look deeper past their “me me me” façade you see them as an incredibly insecure person who desperately needs the validation of others. They probably don’t even realize this. They repeatedly break rapport with others to the point that they can’t hold onto quality people in their life. Maybe they’ll wake up, one day…

Both can be a trap along your road of self growth.

Lastly you have the assertive person, who is basically a happy medium between the two extremes. Sure they might tell a couple stories here or there, it’s natural to be proud of oneself. But they have no motives in doing so and generally could care less if you like them or not. This person is truly secure and confident to the core and you know it by talking to them.

-Milkman