Dance Floor is a Trap?

How wrong the guy who said "the dance floor is a trap" was. Like anything, it's just another facet of game which can be used to your advantage. It provides an easy non verbal way to meet girls, initiate kino, and ramp attraction up quickly. The trick is transitioning away and glueing her to you so the interaction sticks…

I'm at Typhoon last night with a bunch of friends. I have a date with me also so I'm basically in "hook up my friends" mode. We bump into more people we know. We're chilling at first by some tables in a high traffic area pulling people in. A friend fearlessly goes in on 3 seated cute girls and locks himself in right away. I'm amusing myself opening girls by poking them in the belly and telling them they're committing a party foul by having no drink, or dancing. I've also given the cheers opener to the 2 new guys so they can work on being social.

Eventually we make our way to the dance floor. We're overlooking it and I'm getting eyes from this super hot asian girl. She AI's us and stands next to me grinding her friend. Forget what I opened her with but she's laughing, smiling, and then proceeds to tit punch me with a spearhand poke to the belly! I'm like WTF LOL, did you just tit punch me? Your tits are next! "Nooooo!". She's giggling. I try bringing my buddy in because he's so into Asians and this one is fucking cute. He doesn't step up so it's over. After I'm telling him we want to occupy the raised part of the stage when we dance because we'll get noticed. Attention whoring girls leave and we grab the opportunity to hop up.

I'm not an especially good dancer, but I know a move or two, I'm confident, and know how to have fun amusing myself. That, combined with the stage and powers of observation is all you need. We're up there shaking our shit and I'm watching for the signs. The investment pays off and the eyefuckings begin. These 21 year old girls are looking up at us having a great time strutting around and want to be a part of it. It's like a hybrid of social proof with jealousy plot, sans woman. We begin to get AI'd.

Girl #2 rolls by and I noticed she'd been eyefucking in Genome's and my direction. I poked him in the ribs or something to let him know what's up and gave the girl a smile. We both helped her up on stage and I told her "Have you met my best friend Genome? He's awesome!". She begins shit testing him immediately while they're dancing. He turns around to me and says she's accusing him of this or that. I think I said "you like guys with personality right? Well Genome has a BIG PERSONALITY!" They walk off hand in hand later… logistics were bad for him but he got her info.

Girl #3 rolls by. She's checking me out. She looks. She looks away. My date is 3 feet away. She looks. She looks away. Stop being so shy college girl. I smile and hold my hand out. She hops on stage and suddenly my cock is rubbing against her pussy as she grinds me. I go in close and breathe heavy on her neck. She does the same. My date is watching this go down, smiling and talking to one of our guys. She wasn't jealous. Awesome. Now I can turn it up. I turn her around so she's sandwiched between my buddy and I. She starts rubbing her ass on my now hard cock.

I stab her in the ass with it. Oh my.

My buddy finally begins to get it and take control. Shes into it with him. Then out of nowhere some guy approaches the stage and she pulls him up. My friend gives up the fight before it began and now he's outside the bubble. My friend is awesome but he lacks presence and confidence in himself. Incredibly surprising to me given everything he has going for him but we all have our inner demons.

His roommate later starts double teaming same girl with random guy, turns her towards him and starts making out with her in front of whoever that guy was. I'm waiting for the drama. It never comes. He was only an orbiter, and her ride. My friend's roomie then walks off with her (SMART) and later has his hands up her shirt. Dude is standing next to me in disbelief for 5 minutes. Welcome to the friend zone...

Girl #4 begins eyefucking me. I count at least 8 glances from her toward me. I stare her down and smile. She smiles back. She doesn't approach the stage yet but I have to piss bad so I hop down.

Security corners me with some bogus claim of inappropriate behavior.

They're chill but they toss me outside and aren't reasonable. Someone's butthurt. Wonder if we were with one of their girls or something. Fuckers.

Whatever. I hooked up a couple of my guys and had fun.

I'm a mad genius

God I’m a genius, in my boredom I came up with the best generic warm text opener ever.

Good morning and welcome to txt by numbers! Press 1 to wish me good morning, 2 say you missed me, or 3 to check out my ass!

100% response rate, I’m getting lots of 2’s but mostly 3’s all within minutes.

It’s playful, but it works because it plays into plausible deniability and baits them to respond in a manner which frames I’m the prize and she’s missed me or finds me attractive.

How I got a flake to buy me lunch

Txt game can be really deep. Here's how I turned a flake into buying me lunchwith a little bit of finesse. Mostly I just held my value, had standards, minifreezeouts, did a little invalidation/DQ. That's all it takes… validation is oneof the PRIMARY motivators for womens' behaviors.

Background: We had set up a lunch date since she works in the area but lives toofar for my tastes. Obviously I know no escalation will happen at lunch but Iknew it'd be an easy way to ramp up comfort so I could throw the hoop out therefor her to roll down to my place in the evening some time. She showed high interest but flaked on me 3 times. Once or twice I can understand but the 3rdtime I lost interest. I'm a busy man and my time is valuable. The last thing Ireceived from her was:

HBFlake: "Hey something came up I can't make today, I'll call you"

She never called, so I lost her number. Two weeks passed…

I received a text from an unknown # telling me she was "sick". I knew it was her from clues in the msg. It seems innocuous and a"Get better soon" might have seemed the socially appropriate reply, but I saw it for what it was: Validation seeking on her part. She knew she fucked up and wanted to know if I would still put in an effort or respond to her. No, I won't. Not replying as a PUSH was the correct decision. Another week passed and I received this text from an unknown number:

HBunknown: "Hi How are you?"

I decided to go for another big PUSH. This person wasn't in contact enough to besaved in my phone. I figured they would get pissed at the question and eithernot txt back or it would hook.

MM: "Who is this?"
HBFlake: "HBFlake"
MM: "It's so awesome outside, I just got back from surfing Del Mar"

I intentionally left this out there with no rapport building, not asking her how she's been or anything. She could have stopped replying because I gave her nothing to work with. All part of the plan so she starts trying to win me over.

HBFlake: "Awesome I am out swimming and sunning myself in Oceanside, dogsitting"

She continued the conversation – rapport seeking on a woman is one of thelargest IOIs.

MM: "Sounds fun, but Oceanside? You're so far, you'll have to find yourself downhere more often"

Kind of a half disqualification of her on my part. I really don't have time toput up with LD chicks, especially if they are gonna flake.

HBFlake: "Yeah I know…. So lunch next week?"

MM: "Well we've tried 3 times, I think you owe me lunch now mrs cornflake (:"

First of all, it's important not to sound like you're butthurt over anything she's done because reactivity conveys neediness. At the same time you need to convey you are a man of STANDARDS and draw boundaries for her. Girls like a guy with a backbone. Balancing between the two can be really tricky as I found outlast night.

So I threw this out there, along with a hoop. I'm not going to be easy for her at this point after all these flakes. She's gonna have to earn me back. I'm pushing her pretty hard here, and it's completely intentional. The solution forher flaking is for her to chase and then earn me.

HBFlake: "Sure my treat, how about (venue) on (weekday).. though I'm more of aCheerio"

Some more junk after that but basically I turned this flake into chasing me andwanting to buy me lunch. The professional girl from a few wks back flaked on ourfollowup afternoon date and feels bad so she's buying me a sushi dinner.

To quote a song in my favorite movie: "Damn, it feels good to be a gangsta". Now, where's that Fax Machine? PC Load Letter... what the fuck is that?!

-MM

Project Mission Beach

Criteria:

Walking distance to decent surf break
Walking (stumbling) distance to target rich area to build a large social circle and for pulling.

Mission beach fits the bill with SMJ as a surf location, plus tons of tourists and people on the boardwalk.

Cons: Crime, traffic, annoying college kids.

Solana Beach or cardiff might also be cool - way cooler, for surf locations - but way worse as far as targets.

Downtown might be way cool for targets and pulling, but no access to anything but shitty surf breaks after a 20 minute ride.

I plan on getting a townhome in the future to make this a reality.

Tip of the day: Party on a Shoestring Budget

Let’s face it, as long as I have known them most PUA are a bunch of cheap ass motherfuckers – myself included! But not to fret, with the economy the way it is, frugal is the new chic. Forged from a layoff, honed from dating multiple women, and perfected through a recession I bring you Milkman’s tips to livin’ large on a shoestring budget. Here’s how to party and get punani, for less!

Frequent dives and places with good priced happy hours. You can’t go wrong with a $3 beer, or $4 you call it! Take advantage of hosted bars.

Drink before you go out. Bring a container and chug it in the car to get your vibe going.

BYOB. The best investment I ever made was to buy a couple bottles of that 5 hour energy shit, and then fill it with vodka purchased from Costco. I save $30+ nightly doing this. Then I’ll buy a diet coke or sugarfree redbull, mix in my own alcohol, and be set for the night! If I run out, light domestic beers are usually cheap. My friends are constantly amazed how I can party in the gaslamp and spend $10 or 20 a night and have an AWESOME time.

Don’t pay for parking lots! Learn the lay of the land and where you can park for cheap. Generally yellow, green, and meters go free after 6pm. You might have to walk a couple extra blocks, but the exercise will do you good. Plus it’ll give you time to sober up.

Make friends with bouncers and promoters! They’ll help you get in places, for less. Get informed to what’s going on!

If you take a date out, make her quality drinks at your place. That way she rolls out buzzed and it saves you cash at the venue.

$ave by using different grades of vodka or alcohol for each application. If I’m mixing with Redbull or Diet Coke, that cheapo Ralphs shit hits the ticket. If I’m mixing something nicer like a Cosmo or Godiva martini I might use a house vodka like Skyy. If it’s a really special girl or drink I might bust out the Gray Goose or Roberto Cavalli.

Shop for your liquor at Costco or any other bulk discounter. It’s worth it.

When traveling, stay in the same room with multiple people. Also, evaluate travel time and cost between discount airfare and driving. I was able to spend 3 days in Vegas for New Years 09 and only spend $180 including everything! Travel, lodging, food, cover, more drinks than I could handle – all included for 60 bones a day.

Stop drinking during weeknights. It’s calories and slows your metabolism anyway, save it for the weekend.

Selectively choose your bottle service venue. Some places can run $500+ per bottle. Fuck them! There are other fun places around SD to get a bottle for $175. It sounds like a lot, but if you are gonna blow $40+ a night anyway a bottle split 5 way with friends makes a LOT of sense. Plus you get the bonuses of a table, social proof, mixers, etc. Confidential and Aero Lounge both offer bottles of Skyy for around $175. Go on a weekend night for maximum traffic. When the bottle runs dry fill it with seltzer water or tonic to keep the table so you don't need to buy another bottle, LOL. And if chicks want drinks, give them mixer and splash a lil vodka on top.

-MM

Making your move

I had a pretty good weekend, I was out with mLTRs but the 3rd one flaked on Sunday for legit reasons. It kinda made me rethink things with her, she’s not that great a fit for me. I like her and she’s very sexy, but I may not be calling her back.

Anyway the highlight of my weekend was passing my Orange belt test. It was really satisfying to have put in so much work and then finally earn it. I’m really digging Karate, and it’s interesting how some of it’s principles apply to pickup.

So at my low belt level, one of the principles being taught is follow up. You don’t just block and punch/kick one time. You see your opening, and you GO FOR IT. In pickup, this’d be analogous to being able to pull the trigger with a girl. I know a number of guys who really have problems with this issue. Sometimes the issue is sexual anxiety. Other times it’s due to social programming. If this describes you, just learn to recognize certain openings and escalate with your woman.
-MM

Mixed Sets and What to do if your girlfriend gets hit on

Two sides of the coin...

So you’re out and talking to a woman who seems to be into you, but suddenly an aggro guy tells you “I’m her boyfriend”. Yet the girl keeps talking… What do you do? There are many reasons why a woman might entertain you in the presence of her boyfriend and they don’t all necessarily mean she’s into you…

• She wants to make him Jealous
• She’s not “trained”
• She’s drunk and unaware of her actions
• She’s looking to trade up
• She’s bored

Etc.

Keep in mind "I'm her boyfriend" is guy-code for "I know what you're doing, get lost". In those situations I tend to disqualify myself by saying I have a girlfriend, and then running a little rapport with the both of them. Presto, insta wings and future hangout partners. Or you could keep going, and possibly get in a retarded fight when there are tons of other girls nearby who aren't taken.

I wouldn’t be afraid to approach mixed sets, but at the same time there’s a fine line between finding out logistics of “how everyone knows each other”, and intentionally trying to poach a dude’s girl in front of him. If you pursue the latter course of action, anything which happens is on your head.

My girl is being hit on - Help!

I go out with my girls often. Some are trained better than others, but here’s some of the things I’ve done when my girl is being hit on.

• AMOG
• Perform human sacrifice (Introduce someone to the annoying guy and move girl)
• Not acknowledge guy and move the girl
• Interrupt strongly to take over the conversation and tell the guy “Hey nice meeting you, we have to go now”
• Interrupt strongly and speak only to the girl “Hey, it’s your turn..” or “I just saw the most AMAZING thing I have to show you! Let’s go”, then move her.
• If the guy isn’t that great, ditch her so she gets bored of him and comes looking for you.
• Start talking to girls who are attracted to me in front of my girl.
• Have a wing come in and talk to the guy, move the girl.

Etc.

I’ve only needed to AMOG once in 2 years, so there are plenty of other things you can do without resorting to something which may possibly get ugly.

-MM