Friday, May 14, 2010

Triggers

Let’s pull a random subject out of my arse, yay! Milkman gigantic post time. Gather around, kiddies…

When I first got into game I noticed that women all seemingly acted the same, so I thought it was a joke that “women were unique”. I’ve never been a misogynist, but I have to admit… this sounds pretty misogynistic! I might as well start my own talk show and change my last name to Leykis…

Now days I sport a more refined view. Remember, experience tempers ones’ viewpoint.

I’ve realized women all show the same REACTIONS. If she gets interested in you, she might twirl her hair, punch you when you bust on her, ask you questions, ignore the pleas of her friends to “go dance”, ask you where the afterparty is (code for 'let's fuck'), etc.

These reactions are almost universal when a woman is interested in you…

But what makes women unique is that what TRIGGERS these reactions are different for every single woman.

When you’re talking to a girl, imagine yourself as a suave undercover agent: It’s your job to find out what TRIGGERS her attraction.

Is it your subcommunications? Your physique? Your image? The things you’re talking about? Some quick-witted observation, or ability to bust on her? Your confidence? Your balls-out desire? Your ability to win over her friends? Some nerdy gambit you read on the Internet? The fact you’re wearing a fuzzy vest? The fact she’s seen multiple women make passes at you?

Anything and everything can cause an attraction trigger in a woman – be ready to try it all and BE it all. This is why anything and everything you do to improve yourself (inside and out) will help you – you never know where the source of her attraction will come from.

Now, her personal state affects her triggers as well.

Wait.. what? YES.

On one night you might meet a girl and she might completely not be interested in you… but when you see her a month later, her state (and hence her triggers) have changed, and she’s not only receptive to you but she wants your mothafuckin’ monkey balls!

When it comes to it, a girl’s words can lie but her actions are her “tells”. In poker, a player might bluff but each has “tells” which reveal what is really going on. Does she really have a boyfriend or does she want to see if you have the balls to follow through?

Get really fucking good at looking for these “tells”. Let them guide you.

If a girl banters with you on your opener, that’s GREAT.

An opener may not necessarily cause attraction, but it can communicate valuable things: You’re fun, social, and outgoing. It does something else……

It gives you more time to find out what her attraction triggers are.

As I said, every woman is different in what “hooks” or “triggers” her. Be prepared to try different things when you talk to her.

--Milkman