A big problem I’ve noticed is: as guys, we really want that pussy. It makes us pull very hard. In general, pulling is bad when the girl isn’t ready. You sacrifice a long term win for a short term high. Instead of gaming them in a linear fashion of escalation I’ve switched to a more random method, based upon compliance. The more compliant and attentive a girl is, the more time she gets out of me – to a point, of course. When a girls attention and compliance is at a high, I let her pull ME.
I’m also thinking of women in terms of money. I make small investments over time which leads to a big payoff – getting laid (repeatedly) from a chick I really dig. Similarly I don’t put all my eggs in one basket either. One of my goals is a large STABLE I can hang with. I’m using this new method to move forward in increments over time, towards that goal. My ego – the need for a +1 – will not interfere with this goal because my abundance mentality overrides it.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Monday, May 18, 2009
Reader Mailbag 1
Mailbag is where I'll choose a good email and answer reader questions. I like this one because I think we've all been in this situation! Today's comes from Gecko...
“I have been reading your blog for a month now, when I get time at work. I like what I read and I'd like to ask you for some help. You seem like you may be able to help.
I've been pursuing this chick since St Patty's Day. I met her at my local hang out. She is a friend of a friend and she seemed cute. So i bought her a few shots and started a little chit chat. She had plans to go watch some midget wrestling with said friend, so I said good night and we parted ways. I told our friend to put in a good word. He did. Good guy. I saw her again a few weeks later, after a hockey game, at the same watering hole. This time I really buttered her up. I pulled out all of my best material. She was like putty in my hands, dude. Unfortunately, my friend that I went to the game with (not the mutual friend) was a little too trashed. I was running between her and my dummy, cock blocking friend. He eventually won out. I couldn't even get her number because she seemed turned off by my buddy. Turns out, it wasn't a total failure.
The girl, ended up at the spot yet again this past Thursday. This time I was solo. I managed to man up enough to get her number. Sadly, during the week, I have a time limit. I wasn't able to be quite the charming motherfucker I normally am. I got the number anyway. My question to you is, when should I try to call her? You see, I'm a very busy man. Between the daily band practice, working overtime, my dogs and the upcoming Testament concert, next Monday, which I have to reserve my cash for, I'm not so sure I should I should try so set up a date so soon. Please advise.”
Gecko
Gecko,
Thanks for being a reader and for your submission. There's no official waiting period. It's been several days so I would get in contact TODAY to keep the interaction warm. Reopen her via text using callbackhumor. Or if you're certain she saved your # in her phone (you are supposed to make certain this happens when you get her #) and you had a strong interaction to the point you know she'll pick up if available, then call at a time when you think she's most likely to answer; maybe around 7 or 8 depending on her schedule.
The only thing waiting does is try to hide a guys excitement or neediness in a situation. If you've ever seen Good Luck Chuck where he goes psycho needy wearing the penguin outfit, or swingers where mike calledthat girl and left several messages - that's what I'm talking about. As long as you can come from a place of want, instead of need, you will be fine.
Waiting too long can turn interactions cold. I recommend getting in touch asap and if you're busy keep it warm with texts and anoccasional phone call until you can meet up. Exchanging myspace or facebooks is also great for this and let's her get a peek at what you're like.
Lastly don't focus on any one girl too much. You found one girl you like but come from a place of abundance mentality where there is one,there are more just around the corner. Keep meeting women and being successful.
Also, see this link on my blog for some more info...
http://milkmandeliversattraction.blogspot.com/2009/02/how-to-turning-that-number-into-date.html
Good luck let me know how it goes!
-Milkman
“I have been reading your blog for a month now, when I get time at work. I like what I read and I'd like to ask you for some help. You seem like you may be able to help.
I've been pursuing this chick since St Patty's Day. I met her at my local hang out. She is a friend of a friend and she seemed cute. So i bought her a few shots and started a little chit chat. She had plans to go watch some midget wrestling with said friend, so I said good night and we parted ways. I told our friend to put in a good word. He did. Good guy. I saw her again a few weeks later, after a hockey game, at the same watering hole. This time I really buttered her up. I pulled out all of my best material. She was like putty in my hands, dude. Unfortunately, my friend that I went to the game with (not the mutual friend) was a little too trashed. I was running between her and my dummy, cock blocking friend. He eventually won out. I couldn't even get her number because she seemed turned off by my buddy. Turns out, it wasn't a total failure.
The girl, ended up at the spot yet again this past Thursday. This time I was solo. I managed to man up enough to get her number. Sadly, during the week, I have a time limit. I wasn't able to be quite the charming motherfucker I normally am. I got the number anyway. My question to you is, when should I try to call her? You see, I'm a very busy man. Between the daily band practice, working overtime, my dogs and the upcoming Testament concert, next Monday, which I have to reserve my cash for, I'm not so sure I should I should try so set up a date so soon. Please advise.”
Gecko
Gecko,
Thanks for being a reader and for your submission. There's no official waiting period. It's been several days so I would get in contact TODAY to keep the interaction warm. Reopen her via text using callbackhumor. Or if you're certain she saved your # in her phone (you are supposed to make certain this happens when you get her #) and you had a strong interaction to the point you know she'll pick up if available, then call at a time when you think she's most likely to answer; maybe around 7 or 8 depending on her schedule.
The only thing waiting does is try to hide a guys excitement or neediness in a situation. If you've ever seen Good Luck Chuck where he goes psycho needy wearing the penguin outfit, or swingers where mike calledthat girl and left several messages - that's what I'm talking about. As long as you can come from a place of want, instead of need, you will be fine.
Waiting too long can turn interactions cold. I recommend getting in touch asap and if you're busy keep it warm with texts and anoccasional phone call until you can meet up. Exchanging myspace or facebooks is also great for this and let's her get a peek at what you're like.
Lastly don't focus on any one girl too much. You found one girl you like but come from a place of abundance mentality where there is one,there are more just around the corner. Keep meeting women and being successful.
Also, see this link on my blog for some more info...
http://milkmandeliversattraction.blogspot.com/2009/02/how-to-turning-that-number-into-date.html
Good luck let me know how it goes!
-Milkman
Friday, May 1, 2009
Backbone & sexual framing
Continuing saga with the professional woman, she’s actually more than just a professional. (deleted). As you can imagine she’s all kinds of feisty and has an ultra strong frame.
Back story: I made a joke which went over her head. She didn’t get it and asked what I meant. I turned it around into an opportunity to cold read and frame.
MM: Oh my blonde. I made a joke silly
HBPro: Ok...ok! God Im an airhead! And u don’t have to agree!
MM: I don’t HAVE to… but doing so is so much fun ;)
HBPro: Ur terrible!
MM: Don’t blame me just cause I call u out cutie (:
-> Find a reason to call her out, and call out calling her out so you can have the following conversation. It subcoms many things including you understand women, which is an attraction switch
HBPro: Believe or not, I liked to be called on my shit! It shows u can deal w me
MM: I know u do why do u think I do it ;) most men don’t have a backbone these days. Not i
HBPro: I like a backbone! I find it sexy and admirable
MM: I like a girl who’s confident enough to go for what she wants and doesn’t give a shit what other people think
-> I’m sexually framing here. In person I would have done a self point
HBPro: And how do u know that’s what I like?
HBPro: That’s good! I like my men like that! A strong personality is important
MM: Oh I know a lot of things u like ;)
HBPro: like what
MM: u find confidence and take charge attitude attractive, u need a man strong enough to be like that even though you are strong yourself. And u test him with ur strength to see if he can take it
HBPro: I need a shower, want to join? <;)>
HBPro: Ok ur right! Have I told u that before or did u read it! I do get easily timid though
-> She sexually shit tested me and I ignore it. After that we got into deep rapport
Back story: I made a joke which went over her head. She didn’t get it and asked what I meant. I turned it around into an opportunity to cold read and frame.
MM: Oh my blonde. I made a joke silly
HBPro: Ok...ok! God Im an airhead! And u don’t have to agree!
MM: I don’t HAVE to… but doing so is so much fun ;)
HBPro: Ur terrible!
MM: Don’t blame me just cause I call u out cutie (:
-> Find a reason to call her out, and call out calling her out so you can have the following conversation. It subcoms many things including you understand women, which is an attraction switch
HBPro: Believe or not, I liked to be called on my shit! It shows u can deal w me
MM: I know u do why do u think I do it ;) most men don’t have a backbone these days. Not i
HBPro: I like a backbone! I find it sexy and admirable
MM: I like a girl who’s confident enough to go for what she wants and doesn’t give a shit what other people think
-> I’m sexually framing here. In person I would have done a self point
HBPro: And how do u know that’s what I like?
HBPro: That’s good! I like my men like that! A strong personality is important
MM: Oh I know a lot of things u like ;)
HBPro: like what
MM: u find confidence and take charge attitude attractive, u need a man strong enough to be like that even though you are strong yourself. And u test him with ur strength to see if he can take it
HBPro: I need a shower, want to join? <;)>
HBPro: Ok ur right! Have I told u that before or did u read it! I do get easily timid though
-> She sexually shit tested me and I ignore it. After that we got into deep rapport
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